We all know that being positive all the time is not only very hard but also impossible. Being in a bad position, going through a hard time, it’s not always easy to be positive about where you are in life but that’s okay. You don’t always have to be positive, what you need to do is change your mindset.
A lot of people obsess about how they have to have the perfect plan in the beginning and obsess about the result from the very beginning. But do you know what this will lead to? Most of the time, when so much of your focus lies on the results, you will end up feeling disappointed and discouraged when you don’t land where you planned to. But there’s a better way that will not only help you avoid disappointments but also help you grow as a person and as an entrepreneur. It’s to change your mindset and start falling in love with the process.
It might sound simple, but it makes a great impact.
Don’t rush the process, enjoy it, fall in love with it. Results will come when you fall in love with the process instead of rushing the results.
Think of it like this, imagine you have a task that needs to be done soon, but you chose to slack off and not do it until the very last moment, maybe you could get it done in time, but ultimately you will rush the job and the results will disappoint you. But if you’ve fallen in love with the process, you will not rush it, because you enjoy doing it, so you will take your time and learn things along the way as you finish the job ahead of time, giving you more room to fix and improve the work which slacking off will not give you.
If you fall in love with the process, you will find that not only will you gain more than just experience, but you will also find that you will learn more and more. Sometimes a simple mindset change is enough to change the way you see your problems. You see, every entrepreneur is destined to fail, only about 10%, accounting for beginner’s luck, will succeed, but if you are willing to change your mindset, start thinking of failure as a chance to learn so you don’t fail in the future, you are already on the right track.
For me personally, my turning point was in 2015. I was a very different person. I dedicated my life to a single goal; to prove to everyone that they’re wrong, to prove to everyone who looks down on me that they are wrong.
I am my mother’s firstborn, but in 2015, I have not achieved anything. This later became more obvious at family gatherings where my relatives would brag about their children to me and my mother and it makes it harder and harder for me to attend these gatherings because it became the only thing that I see. So I made it my goal to prove to everyone that I’m better than every single person in that gathering, in my family.
But the problem is, this goal didn’t bring me anything. Sure, I made some money, I climbed the ladder, but ultimately, I gained nothing. Looking back now, I realize that not only is this a very selfish goal, but also a pointless one. But what happened afterward changed my mindset and made me who I am today; I met my mentor in January of that year. He inspired me through leadership, by showing me that true leadership is about putting yourself in front of others to help lead them. I realized that I was wrong and that selfishness is not the key to success, helping others is. in fact, you really only truly succeed when your team also succeeds.
I then started to build my startups. I have always made it a point in my startups to have a winning team. Because more than anything, your team is a good indicator of where you are, and if you have a winning team, not only will they push you out of your comfort zone, but they will also play an important role to help you succeed.
This reminds me of something that my mom used to say, roughly translated from mandarin, she says, “you will never be successful if you name yourself a successful person. You will only be successful if you help other people succeed because you’ve changed their lives.”, and that has stuck with me through all these years.
It is not always easy to see the good in bad things, and it ultimately comes back to us, whether or not we choose to see the good side in every situation, because although it’s hard, there’s always a silver lining just around the corner that will not only help us learn and grow as a person and as an entrepreneur, but also to help us succeed. Fall in love with the process and you’ll see what I mean.